In a recent issue of Wedding Wire’s email newsletter, I clicked on the article
The second thing on the list after Budget was Spending Priorities. As a Bride on a Budget, I had already put some thought into this – my photographer and videographer were the first vendors I booked.
Here are the Top 5 items in our wedding budget that are worth it:
3 – The Dress
4 – Music
5 – Food
1- Photography: Photos are forever. I want to have a beautiful wedding album and framed photos to decorate our future home
2- Videography: Watching a video of our wedding will allow us to re-live the happy memories
3- The Dress: The big moment of a wedding is when the bride makes her grand entrance. With all eyes on me, I want to look stunning!
4- Music: While the ceremony is all about the bride & groom, the reception is about creating a fun party for the guests. Music sets the tone for the party and the dance floor. We want our guests to remember how much fun they had celebrating with us.
5 – Food: Having good food is part of providing hospitality to guests and being a good hostess.
As a guest or a Bride, what elements of a wedding are most important to you?
Besides the Save the Date debate, another compromise we made was the decision to have a registry or a Wishing Well
(a nice way of saying cards & cash only)
Our compromise was to create a registry for the Bridal Shower and to have a Wishing Well at the wedding
Originally I really wasn’t interested in a registry because we both have apartments with home & kitchen essentials, but once we started the list, I realized there were some items that I would enjoy, but normally wouldn’t treat myself to.
Another reason why I didn’t want a registry is etiquette. I read this book right after we got engaged and it made me very conscious of not becoming an entitled Bridezilla and remembering to be a gracious hostess to my guests. I do not want to offend them by “asking” for gifts or dictating how much a gift should cost.
As part of the compromise, we are not publishing registry information on any of the invitations. The registry will only be shared with guests who ask or choose to view it on our wedding website.
Despite Miss Manners’ views on the matter, registries have become commonplace and are considered helpful to guests who are not sure what to give.
Registries have evolved to include contributions to the Honeymoon or to a down payment on the couples’ first house.
As a guest or as a bride – How do you feel about wedding registries?